A couple of questions (Sex Toys, Anal Sex)

November 12, 2009 - 11:11 PM

I have been recently trying to talk my g/f into trying sex toys and things, she has been with guys that have if she was to use them then she dosen't need a guy? How could I settle this? However; i have one more question......how do i go about talking to her about anal sex? I would like to try it, but she has told me no....what could i do about these 2 things?

Gina Says

November 13, 2009 - 12:17 PM

Hey, she certainly doesn't need to be only by herself to use sex toys; in fact they can be a great way to increase intimacy between partners (and that;s how you should approach the subject). By using Sex Toys, you can find out exactly what gets her off.

As for anal sex, many women are turned off at the idea because of the preconceived notion that anal sex causes pain or discomfort. In fact it's the opposite, but explaining this usually falls on deaf ears.

You should start by playing with the anus without insertion. This is done just by rubbing and caressing the sensetive nerve endings around the outside of the anus. Once she realizes that this is an enjoyable experiece you've already got half the battle under your belt. After that you can try bringing in Anal Sex Toys that are narrower than the circumference of the penis. Anal beads, and Butt Plugs come in a variety of sizes and are often very inexpensive.

Anal sex is a taboo subject even in the new millenium and the idea that pornography instills in us that it is ubiquitous is not quite true.

I hope that helps!

XOXOX Gina