A BDSM Slave, often referred to a submissive, sub, or bottom, is the person who assumes the role of taking orders and commands from a Mistress, Dominant, Dominatrix (female), Dom or Top.

A sub can obviously be male or female, as it depends on personal preference of the participant(s). Slaves play the role as a fantasy to be controlled by another person as they find it a turn-on to be dominated by another person. The sub discusses - prior to play, what rules if any are to be followed, and what sorts of sex toys, or restraining devices are to be used during the experience of BDSM.

Slaves may feel the inclination to be tied with rope, handcuffs, bondage sex toys or some form of fabric intended to restrain the slave, to harnesses such as St. Andrews crosses, or various other types of furniture. The slave while in the role of taking orders during BDSM sessions, dictates before hand what is alluring and what they intend to receive from play.

The Slave or sub, also chooses his or her preference to various erotic toys to be employed on them, Whips, flogs, spanking boards, dildos, vibrators, as well as manual, oral, and penetration can occur depending on the rules created by all parties before play begins.

Play can consist of, once again depending on the rule set forth, orgasm denial, which can be accomplished by simply not allowing much stimulation for the slave, or conversely by bringing the sub to the point just before climax and stopping abruptly all stimulation, this procedure, if repeated, leads to even greater orgasms as the muscles and nerves are more aroused than if just stimulated for a shorter duration. Think of what happens when you jerk off after being blue balled.

Talk is also an important aspect to the slave, as various words, or commands can arouse the mind of the sub to achieve greater mental sexual stimulation. This can consist of phrases that ask if the slave is worthy of the mistress or dom, and if they should be allowed to receive pleasure. Many subs gain the most pleasure from verbal sex talk as it triggers emotions and facilitates blood flow throughout the body.

It also should be noted that depending on personal preference and rules, that the sub may not be allowed to talk unless asked a direct question. Furthermore, the sub may be required to refer to the Dominant strictly as “Mistress”, “Master”, or “Sir” (depending on gender) at the end of each answer.

Professional Dominatrix’s, or Mistresses usually forbid sexual intercourse for numerous reasons including image – they themselves do not see what they do as prostitution, health concerns in dealing with strangers, or because it might break laws depending on the specific state and/or country.

Participating in this type of activity is viewed sometimes as irregular to most people. However the concept of slave and domination has existed for quite some time. Beginning in the Middle Ages, it was normal to express such fetishes of controlling through bondage, domination, submission and masochism.