my girlfriend cant have a natural orgasm

April 9, 2010 - 01:04 PM

my girlfriend tells me that she cant have a natural orgasm and this is really weird for me because i have always been able to give my girlfriends orgasms in the past. i feel bad because i love her and want to please her. what do you recommend? she can orgasm by the use of toys which i dont mind doing i just wanted to do it naturally as well. i guess its an ego thing lol. if we were to talk to a professional, how would i go about looking one up?

Gina Says

April 12, 2010 - 3:26 PM

Sometimes women (an estimated 50-75%) require manual stimulation, of the clitoris, in order to reach their climax. And while it's great that your previous partners were please, and rest assured that the use of sex toys is not for a lack of your technique, but how her body responds.

Ultimately she may need an aid to get her off, and just expect it as natural for the course during sexual play with her. So rest your ego, focus on having a blast, and try new things like mutual masturbation, oral sex, or bringing her up to the point of orgasm with a vibrator, then coming to a full stop.

Looking up a professional sex therapist is as easy a search in your favorite search engine. 

Hope that helps! 

XOXO Gina